Monday, January 12, 2004
Marriages
i have 3 unmarried Aunts, out of 5 daughters that my grandma had. all of whom i love. I just came home from dinner with Auntie Margaret, sassy (as john used to describe her), pretty (flowing curly brown hair, sharp nose and chin, double lid eyes), articulate in speech, worldly (shes been around and traveled her share of the world), neat and she loves her 80's love songs (Bread anyone?). She's hip too and cooks a mean 'aglio olio'. in fact she's almost perfect as a wife i think (though she isnt the type to stay home and do the laundry). cept she's too bossy (but thats her nephew talking). so why isnt she married?! i have no idea. maybe she's happy being single. though there was an incident i recall where she left her house light on for 3 nights in a row after watching "The Ring". so im sure she gets lonely sometimes cause she lives alone. :/
i once suggested adoption. she said, "dogs?" i said,"no, children!" she said,"oh, my friend just brought 4 home today." I said, "dogs?" she said, "no, children!" her friend runs an adoption agency. and that was it. she was married once though, but that was eons ago, when Dodos still roamed the Mauritius. we dont talk about that bastard. maybe her conditions are too good and most men didnt match up to it or maybe she's looking for her soulmate (she's not too late) or maybe and most likely, she's just happy being by herself and there wasnt pressures in the family to marry (or in her case, marry again). and we're catholic though and marriage is for life... but i'm old enough to know that it takes one to make someone else happy. not that it matters, but i also do know that mama was matchmade to grandpa and look how far they've come :) then again, i'm wholy unqualified to talk about marriage. being the young gay boy that i am.
I believe that there isn't THE one, but many ones, scattered across the globe, and if the time is right, you'll meet one of them, and then you'll fall hopelessly in love. and you can't help but think that way too when, by chance, you catch Auntie Marge humming along to "through the years" playing on the radio.
Tolkien once said, in a letter to his son Michael that "Nearly all marriages, even happy ones, are mistakes: in the sense that almost certainly (in a more perfect world, or even with a little more care in this very imperfect one) both partners might be found more suitable mates. But the real soul-mate is the one you are actually married to." i totally agree. in any case, if, by chance, i havent found my soulmate by the time i'm 45, i would love to be as sassy about it as she is.
Posted by Dominic at 11:48 PM